Update.

So, its been a couple weeks since I last posted. I've been VERY busy lately! I start my new job Monday for orientation and MORE paperwork! It'll be in Columbus so the time difference and drive will take a lot of getting used to but I can manage. I'm very nervous at the same time because I really hope I enjoy the job and am good at it.

We  also went to Savannah, Ga last week which was beautiful in EVERY way imaginable. I just know that we will be back as soon as we can. I could walk around there for hours on end.. even in the cold! We saw so many beautiful Live Oaks that it takes your breath away at first. We stayed at the Inn on Ellis Square and it was such a lovely historic building with HUGE windows and not to mention a great view of the river. We'll be seeing you soon Savannah ;]

Now, something that has been on my mind lately is relationships. I've been in all kinds in my short little life: long ones, short ones, loving ones, abusive ones, controlling ones, great ones, and not-so great ones. I feel like I have hit it wrong in the past but I am truly proud of my relationship today. I work REALLY hard at it, we both do. It takes a lot of giving and compromise..a WHOLE lot. But in the beginning you never see all that it will take. You see how cute the other is or how wonderful it is that you love a certain band that he loves too- now don't get me wrong that is important and all but its not even the icing on the cake.

The icing, that holds a relationship together for life to me, is the concept of change & growth. Can you deal with change/growth in your partner.. cause trust me not only will the physical change but a lot will change as your partner grows up and learns in life. And not only them, but you will change too! Its kind of like learning to love a new person through your whole life because the core, the soul is there but the aspects of people change..

Time is one of those things that matter but in a sense it doesn't. I was with my highschool boyfriend Will almost 5 years and we were in love, or at least I was. But not the kind of love that it takes to accept the future changes of each other. We were in love with each other for that time. I loved the High School him, and he loved the High School me. We never saw past friday night more less where we'd be in 5 years. 10 years. But now Jeb 4 years later with us, we're married. we're IN love. the kind that sees the future and embraces the change and growth we will come to. I can tell you from 19 to 23 I've changed drastically and Jeb has excepted that and as I have excepted him.

Almost ALL people who get divorced say, "Your not the person I married so many years ago." WELL DUH, people GROW! You are not going to be the same at 20 and 40. No way. Too many life experiences happen and mold you. If you are a lucky person, your partner will include you in the new molding, but some just leave there partner behind.

If you want a love that will last, really really last. Bring them with you in your changes. Always. Don't hide things from them just to spare them their feelings- be honest. It truly is the BEST policy.
And for those of you who think you'll be alone for ever, it is no where near true. You just have to find your Jeb :] and not be too busy looking for him/her that you miss them. It happens by chance truly. You could be at home or at the doctor or maybe even at your job.

Now I don't believe in soul mates but i do believe that relationships take work, hard work. and If they don't one person is hiding something because humans are unique and complex species.. you should know you are one ;]

LONG blog. A lot on my mind.